Something I love about live poker:
Those little snippets of random BS people say right after they lose a hand.
- “I knew he had it”
- “I can never fold to him”
- “I run so bad”
- “How do you always have it against me”
- “How could you call me with that?”
At the poker table, most people are pretty obsessed with concealing how they feel. So whenever a thought like that makes its way out of someone’s mouth, you can be sure there were at least 100 more that stayed inside.
What that person isn’t doing?
Simply accepting what happened and moving on.
Instead, stories are running wild in their head.
And an object in motion tends to stay in motion.
Without any means to notice and pump the brakes on the thought train, the inevitable thing that’s going to happen is another thought will follow.
If the first thought wasn’t true, the next one will be even less so.
Like a game of telephone, what starts as, “He’s a fish, so I can’t fold” will eventually lead to “Maybe I should find another hobby”.
Live in this way long enough, and those thoughts may even start to feel like home.
When ‘home’ is a bunch of thoughts and stories that aren’t true, it’ll make it impossible to accept things as they truly are.
Then the real problems start to arise.
The good news here?
It’s actually not terribly hard to interrupt it and get out of your head.
It’s just that no one ever showed you how.
If this sounds all too familiar, I can help.
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