There’s a lot of things I would prefer to be different –
I prefer to have more money.
I prefer to be playing higher stakes.
I prefer to own a house in the woods rather than renting an apartment.
And until the end of my days, I’m guessing that I’ll prefer to have something I don’t have at the moment.
I could go join a Buddhist monastery and try to become detached from everything, but that doesn’t sound all that fun to me.
What sounds like a lot more fun is being able to handle all the chaos of the world, be completely at peace about where I’m at right now, and have a lot of fun working towards all the things I’d prefer to have.
There’s two ways people go about it.
When you prefer to have something you don’t, you either –
1. Feel like it’s a problem that you’re not yet where you’re at, and use that feeling to fuel yourself into finding a solution to get it.
2. Feel completely at peace with everything in your life, and enjoy the process of getting more things you would prefer to have, without being bothered you don’t have it.
You’re either living a life with no problems, or you’re not.
People come up with a lot of creative ways to make things a problem.
They constantly create little short term challenges that have to be solved. They label things as mistakes and beat up on themselves in order to motivate themselves to learn more. They create time constraints to constantly feel like their back is against the wall.
Or they even tell themselves the story that they have to become the best version of themselves, creating their own hellish feedback loop, which never lets them feel complete or at peace while working towards stuff, because they’re always in a state of becoming their best version, rather than recognizing they already are right now.
Do that long enough?
You decide that suffering is what brings you meaning, and start looking for it everywhere.
It can turn dark very quickly.
We all learned a lot of really dumb stories from the world. Turns out, when you strip it all back, humans generally just want to be happy, curious, have fun and grow.
It’s not terribly difficult to achieve, but it does require you to recognize some stories you’ve been believing that aren’t true, then be willing to give them up.
If you can do that?
You can live a very happy, fulfilling life without ever feeling like you have a problem.
It can just be tough to see how we’re getting in our own way.
If that sounds like something you’re interested in, even if you have no idea how that could happen, hit me up here. I’ll show you how it’s all possible.
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