I declare bankruptcy

A question I get a lot –

How do I know when I’ve actually accepted something?

Here’s the simplest way I can put it – you’ve accepted it when it doesn’t bother you anymore. And it doesn’t bother you when your attention isn’t constantly hijacked by the topic.

The label of it is still arbitrary, and up to you.

Do you have control over your attention often enough for your liking?

Or does some event still seem to be constantly hijacking it?

If your mind keeps getting hijacked, then there’s something about your experience you’re not accepting.

You’re not accepting something that happened.

Or

You’re not accepting the way you think or feel about something.

That’s pretty much it.

You don’t actually have control over whether or not it surfaces inside you again, just whether or not you welcome it when it does.

In my experience, it’s much more enjoyable when you welcome it every time.

I would say that most of my time is spent without feeling like something is bothering me.

It’s nice to not have any problems.

There are plenty of things I want to be different, but none of them bother me.

How did I get there?

I had a great coach, and two great communities.

I was surrounded by people who made it their highest priority to not only grow and achieve great things, but to do it while enjoying the whole process.

It’s not terribly hard.

It’s just that everyone else is doing it the other way.

They create problems in order to motivate themselves to do something that they think will make them feel a certain way.

Then they get there and it doesn’t feel the way they thought.

Then they dive back in for another round of it, and the vicious cycle continues.

Sometimes it’s tricky to see how you’re getting in your own way. That’s why everyone else’s self-sabotage behavior usually looks pretty dumb and obvious to you.

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In poker?

Almost everyone who’s looking to improve and move up in stakes does it by creating their own problems, then trying to solve them.

“I’m not winning enough”

“I’m not as good as those other guys”

“I’m falling behind”

All stories that they fully believe in the moment.

And so you feel worse, in order to embark on a story that you think leads to you feeling great.

And then you don’t.

Because the only thing that really exists in the present moment.

If you don’t know how to feel good, and have no problems in this present moment, you’re not going to know how to do it in the next one either.

Or any of the following ones.

If you want to learn to feel good and enjoy everything, moment to moment, even through all the insanity that poker tends to throw at you, hit me up here: